Welcome

Introduction

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I'm Bex, a 40 year old wife and mother from Kent. My husband is called Martin (my hero) and I have two teenagers a girl, Izabelle Jaime who's 19, and a boy, William who's 17.  We have an 11 year old dog called Bellatrix.  I'm a retired hairdresser. I have hyper mobility syndrome and fibromyalgia, hence the retired in retired hairdresser. If you're expecting good pronunciation and perfect spelling you will be disappointed although I am working on it as I am starting an English literature and creative writing course in September, because you know, I'm bored.

I lost the use of my right arm, and I'm constantly in pain despite of strong pain killers. I have a damaged diaphragm and scarring on my lungs, so going out without a wheelchair is impossible. I had incontinance issues after so long with a catheter! I suffered panic attacks daily. I have anxiety and experienced hallucinations. I was on 24 hour oxygen and have been diagnosed with sleep apnea so now I have a BIPAP machine at night (I hate it). I couldn’t even bear a duvet on me or lay down and ‘slept’ on the sofa for the first couple of months. I experienced hair loss and a 2 stone weight loss. This after an induced coma, I was put in prone and was unable to see my family in person until I went home as no visitors due to COVID regulations. I relapsed at home, collapsing with a secondary infection leading to type 2 respiratory failure and another stint in ICU. Martin had to resuscitate me in front of the kids leaving them needing trauma counselling. This isn’t even everything, the whole family had Covid over Christmas and Martin narrowly avoided hospital himself. We were shielding too because William has asthma!

This all started because we needed bloody fabric softener! We had done the online Christmas shopping and the normal weekly shop. We were shielding because everyone in the house is asthmatic, apart from me. William really badly.

So we popped to Tesco, masked up. Hand gel galore. Washed our hands when we got back.

I’ll never look at fabric softener the same again.

Bex💕🌈